When the past still affects how you feel today

Trauma-related distress can follow a single overwhelming event or develop through repeated experiences of abuse, rejection, humiliation, neglect, control or feeling unsafe.

Difficult childhood experiences, painful relationships and other life events can leave lasting emotional effects, sometimes becoming apparent many years later.

You may have talked about what happened, read about trauma, educated yourself about its effects and spent considerable time trying to understand your reactions. You may have had therapy or completed a course of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). These experiences may have helped, but you still find yourself affected by what happened, sometimes in ways you cannot quite explain.

You might feel constantly on guard, anticipating danger or feeling responsible for preventing anything bad from happening. This hyper-vigilance can extend beyond yourself to your partner, children and even your pets.

You may find yourself continually checking, anticipating problems or struggling to switch off, even when everything appears to be fine.

You may also find yourself avoiding certain places, people, conversations or activities because of how they make you feel or what they might bring back.

Past experiences may also continue to influence your emotional reactions, the way you see yourself and how you relate to others.

These experiences are often associated with trauma responses, including what is commonly referred to as PTSD or complex PTSD (CPTSD), where the nervous system continues to react as if past experiences are still present.

You do not need to justify what you experienced or have a diagnosis of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) to seek help. What matters is the impact it continues to have on your life.

Why the mind does this

The mind does not process events like a simple video recording. It stores experiences along with meaning, emotion, and survival significance.

Because the mind is designed to prioritise survival, overwhelming and disturbing experiences can remain flagged as "highly relevant or current" (to keep you alive).

As a result, the system may continue to respond as though the event is still happening now, even when the event itself is over and well in the past causing emotional reactions and behaviours that can feel difficult to control.

How HypnoRooms can help

My approach combines hypnotherapy, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Rapid Resolution Therapy® (RRT®).

We work with the emotional impact of past experiences and the automatic responses that may still be influencing your present.

Depending on your circumstances, our work may involve:

Clearing the emotional charge of past experience(s)

Working to reduce and clear the emotional distress attached to traumatic or difficult memories, so that remembering what happened no longer carries the same intensity of fear, pain or distress.

Changing the meaning of what happened

Exploring and changing the meanings, beliefs and conclusions you may have formed as a result of your experiences. This can include feelings of guilt, shame, rejection, helplessness or believing that you were somehow responsible for what happened.

Changing automatic emotional responses

Working with the deeper, unconscious processes that can keep old emotional responses active, even when you consciously know that the experience is over. The aim is to change these automatic responses rather than relying solely on logic, reassurance or conscious effort.

Changing how you move forward

Moving beyond the influence of past experiences so they no longer define how you live your life or the choices you make. The aim is to help you move forward with greater clarity and mental space, reclaim your energy, fun and enjoyment of life, and feel free to embrace new experiences and possibilities.

In my practice, you do not necessarily need to recount every detail of a traumatic experience. Working through its emotional impact does not have to involve further suffering or going through the pain all over again. We adapt the process to your individual circumstances and needs.

Your past is part of your story. It does not have to dictate your present

Imagine being able to remember what happened without experiencing the same intensity of distress.

Being able to care for your loved ones without constantly anticipating danger or feeling responsible for everything that might happen.

Having greater freedom and agency to enjoy relationships, make decisions and participate in the things that matter to you, without the past continually influencing how you feel today.

You cannot change what happened, the past remains part of your history, . But it no longer defines your present experience.

A little about me

I specialise in helping adults, teenagers and children experiencing anxiety, trauma-related responses and emotional overwhelm.

My interest in this work grew from my own experience of seeking support for post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Through hypnotherapy, I experienced a profound shift in how I felt and how I experienced the effects of what had happened to me. This led me to train in the approaches I now use with my clients.

My practice draws on professional training in hypnotherapy, NLP and Rapid Resolution Therapy®. Sessions are tailored to the individual rather than following a one-size-fits-all process.

Let's talk about what you are experiencing

You do not need to know exactly what to call your experience or be ready to explain everything that happened. If you’re looking to change your day-to-day experience so that past trauma no longer influences how you feel or what you do, the first step is a free discovery call.

We can talk through what you've been experiencing, whether my way of working feels right for you, and how I can help you move forward with greater lightness and agency in your daily life.

There is no obligation to book a session afterwards.

Book your free introductory call here.